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In this Week's Newsletter
- Featured Story on The Power of Empathy
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Related Topics:
- 10 Ways to Deal with Fear and Anger
- Helping Children Confront a Bully
- Plus 1-to-1 Coaching via Zoom, Facetime, or Phone
- And Parenting Support Books in Print, Digital & Audio. (You'll wish your parents had these!)
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The Power of Empathy
Story:
My strong-willed, 8-year-old was diagnosed with anxiety and displays this with anger. Last March I got diagnosed with cancer and needed surgery. His anxiety hit the moon. He's been acting out by throwing a ball at kids, stepping on their feet, throwing sand, yelling, etc. I practiced your principles of empathy, and he was able to tell me about a kid teasing him for not climbing the rock wall. I would never have found this out had I not set aside his behavior and my problem, used compassion and empathy, and listened. Yesterday when I picked him up, he came running into my arms and cried and cried really, really hard. WOW! He hasn't cried like that in years.
He cried the whole way home and continued at home and let me just sit there with him. I used empathy when needed and let him say all these horrible things about a kid who’s been bullying him. Bingo, I got to the root of his behavior, went right past those weeds. I did my best to guide him on things he can do, letting him figure this out but also giving assurance we are in this together. This is a big leap for us, and I went to bed feeling more confident knowing I am not perfect but realizing I matter in his life. He felt safe, loved, and supported.
A. This is a brilliant example of how to put connective parenting to work. Not only can you go to bed feeling like you matter but when you work with a child in this way, you feel truly fulfilled. A feeling that is rare and most needed for any parent.
For the keys to digging into your child's emotional state, read on.
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"It seems like this approach should be common knowledge but unfortunately it isn’t."
Jennifer Morgan · Connective Parent
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Helping Children Confront A Bully
Q. Ines, 8, is a very sweet playing, sporty, capable but gentle friend. On the playground one of her better friends at school is starting to bully her.
A. Your work with children experiencing bullying is to help them find their voice without pushing them to use your voice. You do not have to have the answer for them—nor should you. If “Stop” doesn’t feel right to them, something else will, but they need to find it.
The trick is role-play and problem-solving. Here's how it works...
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COACHING
Let go of old habits that distance you from your kids.
Set up a private session and work with me via phone, Zoom, or Facetime. Choose a 30 (free), 60 or 90-minute session.
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10 Ways to Deal with Fear and Anger
Q. My son is off-the-charts angry (hitting me and swearing at me non-stop), disruptive, destructive, and disrespectful. I’m exhausted and handling all of it terribly. As I listen to your book, I’m seeing how my controlling-mom agenda and my own anger issues (never allowed when I was growing up) mean I just give in to stop the anger—both causing our relationship to spiral.
Be kind to yourself and give yourself a break from the norm. Connect with your kids, share your upsets, and laugh as much as you can. Here are 10 ideas to help you reframe your fears and get back to normal, to safety, in a new mindset and begin to let go in the face of aggressive behavior.
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THE BOOKS YOU WISH YOUR PARENTS HAD!
Audio, Kindle & Print
Ready to find out why you react the way you do when your kids drive you crazy?
(And wherever you listen to your favorite reads.)
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For parents who want a calmer, less stressful, healthier relationship with their kids.
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